At the end of the last year/start of the new year, I wrote a #best09 series of posts, inspired by Gwen Bell. It was refreshing to look back over 2009 with a positive view, remembering things like the best restaurant moment, best social web moment, best trip, best person, best book, etc., instead of looking back on all the things that were wrong with my life...like I normally do at the start of a new year. The last entry was a resolution, very traditional new year's stuff and fitting for the new year, especially after having done an exercise on the positives.
MY RESOLUTION 1 MONTH AGO:
This is what I wrote...
I just went back and reread a post I wrote on Simplicity Sake (a blog my sister and I started last year, but haven't kept up...hmm...this does not bode well, eh?) about New Year's Resolutions from 2009. My resolution last year was to be more PRESENT in my life.
While I feel like I made progress on this last year, I think this is always something I have to keep in mind. And I need to remind myself of it. It is easy to get sucked into this, that and the other thing. Especially as I take on new challenges with work and step up my travel schedule (which is definitely on the books for 2010).
The first thing that comes to my mind is being present with my kids and my family. Especially as the kids get older, it is easy to think they are ok, they are fine, they don't need me as much. True, not as intensely and maybe not as much time, but still...they need my presence. I feel like this year I may need to build some things INTO the schedule. Things like:
- adjusting my schedule so that I'm working from 9-2 and then with (and PRESENT) with the kids from 2pm on
- making one-on-one time with each of the kids a priority
- getting a new babysitter so Jeff and I can have our alone time on a regular basis
Another resolution for 2010: Jeff and I have made a goal to run a half marathon in 2010 - we estimate that it is about 13.1 miles from our house to the Los Gatos Dam (and then there is the #tiarathon and #shredheads of course...). Yoga once a week should round things out. Hold me to it?
THE UPDATE AFTER 1 MONTH:
I am making....progress. There are pushes and pulls and unexpected events - like our Christmas puppy breaking her elbow and requiring surgery (grrr.....$3600 later and going on 2.5 weeks of caring for an ill/recovering puppy). But that's life, right?
What I have done is:
- BEING PRESENT WITH THE KIDS 2PM ON: The 2pm on thing is not happening...I am still working a bunch and on calls when the kids are around after school. I am hoping the babysitter thing (see below...) will help with me with, since I will be focusing on work when the babysitter is here and the kids when the babysitter is not/the kids are out of school.
- ONE ON ONE TIME WITH THE KIDS: The other day, the kids and I went out to meet my parent for a day of camping. Ben and I sat on a log and talked and played games for about an hour, just he and I. It was So. Nice. I signed the girls up for a ballet class on Tuesday afternoons. During that hour, Ben and I can do something one on one. I get plenty of alone time with Ava. Now I have to find some time for Lily.
- BABYSITTER: I hired a new babysitter - she starts next week about 10 hours a week or so! We haven't had a babysitter/nanny for about 6 months now and have been relying on my parents, who are leaving next weekend for a year-long RV trip. I am planning on building 1 day into the babysitting schedule that I can just go to yoga or do something for myself, rather than fill up with work and conference calls and meetings. She can also do evenings, so Jeff and I can have some dates. Hooray! This is HUGE for me.
- HALF-MARATHON TRAINING: I haven't been running too much....not on a training schedule. But I have been running a couple of times a week. I am ready to start a schedule now. Any suggestions?
It is time to head to yoga...I haven't been to a Bikrum class for many years, but I will be there in 30 minutes. My sister will be in a class in Newfoundland at the same time, 4.5 hours time difference.
This post is part inspired by the Yahoo Motherboard, of which I am a proud part of.